This calls for a very sober reflection!      
THOUGH I HAVE NO IDEA WHO WROTE THIS BUT IT MAKES INTERESTING READING & A GREAT FOOD FOR THOUGHT
Friends, Let me add the benefit of my time as a student and then  resident in the UK - and I live in Lagos now. The first thing that I  discovered about UK-born, white, English undergraduates was that all of them did holiday or weekend job to  support themselves - including the children of millionaires amongst  them. It is the norm over there - regardless how wealthy their parents  are. And I soon discovered that virtually all other foreign students did  the same - the exception being those of us status-conscious Nigerians. I  also watched Richard Branson (owner of Virgin Airline)speaking on the  Biography Channel and, to my amazement, he said that his young children  travel in the economy class - even when the parents (he and his wife) are  in upper class. Richard Branson is a billionaire in Pound Sterling.
A  quick survey would show you that only children from Nigeria fly business  or upper class to commence their studies in the UK. No other foreign  students do this. There is no aircraft attached to the office of the  prime minister in the UK - he travels on BA. And the same goes for the  Royals. The Queen does not have an aircraft for her exclusive use. These practices simply become the culture which the  next generation carries forward. Have you seen the car that Kate  Middleton(the wife of Prince William) drives? VW Golf or something close  to it. But there's one core difference between them and us(generally speaking).  They (even the billionaires among them) work for their money, we steal  ours!
If we want our children to bring about the desired change we have  been praying for on behalf of our dear country, then please,  let's begin now and teach them to work hard so they can stand alone and  most importantly be content, and not having to "steal", which seem to be  the norm these days."30 is the new 18", which seem to be the new age  for testing out the world in Nigeria now. That seems to be an unspoken  but widely accepted mindset among the last 2 generations of parents in  Nigeria . At age 18 years, a typical young adult in the UK leaves the  clutches of his/her parents for the University, chances are, that's the last time those parents will ever play  "landlord" to their son or daughter except of course the occasional home  visits during the academic year.At 21 years and above or below, the now  fully grown and independent minded adult graduates from University,  searches for employment, gets a job and shares a flat with other young  people on a journey into becoming fully fledged adults. I can hear the  echo of parents saying, well, that is because the UK economy is  thriving, safe, well structured and jobs are everywhere? I beg to differ  and I ask that you kindly hear me out.
I am UK trained Recruitment  Consultant and I have been practicing for the past 10 years in Nigeria .  I have a broad range of experience from recruiting graduates to  executive director level of large corporations. In addition, I talk from  the point of view of someone with relatively privileged upbringing.  Driven to school every day, had my clothes washed for me, was barred from taking any part - time job during my A-levels so that I could  concentrate on studying for my exams?! BUT, I got the opportunity to  live apart from my parents from age 18 and the only time I came back  home to stay was for 3 months before I got married! Am I saying that  every parent should wash their hands off their children at age 18? No,  not at all, of course, I enjoyed the savings that I made from living on  and off at my parent's house in London - indeed that is the primary  reason for my being able to buy myself a 3 bedroom flat in London at age  25 with absolutely no direct financial help from my parents! For me,  pocket money stopped at age 22, not that it was ever enough for my  lifestyle to compete with Paris Hilton's or Victoria Beckham's.  Meanwhile today, we have Nigerian children who have never worked for 5  minutes in their lives insisting on flying "only" first or business  class, carrying the latest Louis Vuitton ensemble, Victoria 's Secret underwear and wearing Jimmy Choo's, fully paid for by their "loving"  parents. I often get calls from anxious parents, my son graduated 2 years  ago and is still looking for a job, can you please assist! Oh really!  So where exactly is this "child" is my usual question. Why are you the  one making this call dad/mum?I am yet to get a satisfactory answer, but  between you and me, chances are that big boy is cruising around Lagos  with a babe dressed to the nines, in his dad's spanking new SUV with  enough "pocket money" to put your salary to shame. It is not at all  strange to have a 28 year old who has NEVER worked for a day in his or  her life in Nigeria but "earns" a six figure "salary" from parents for  doing absolutely nothing. I see them in my office once in a while, 26  years old with absolutely no skills to sell, apart from a shiny CV,  written by his dad's secretary in the office. Of course, he has a driver  at his beck and call and he is driven to the job interview. We have a fairly decent conversation and we get to the  inevitable question - so, what salary are you looking to earn? Answer  comes straight out - N250,000.00. I ask if that is per month or per  annum.Of course it is per month. Oh, why do you think you should be  earning that much on your first job? Well, because my current pocket  money is N200,000.00 and I feel that an employer should be able to pay  me more than my parents. I try very hard to compose myself, over  parenting is in my opinion the greatest evil handicapping the Nigerian  youth. It is at the root of our national malaise.
We have a youth  population of tens of millions of who are being "breastfed and diapered"  well into their 30s. Even though the examples I have given above are  from parents of considerable affluence, similar patterns can be observed  from Abeokuta to Adamawa! Wake up mum! Wake up dad! You are practically  loving your children to death! No wonder corruption continues to thrive. We have a society of young people who have been brought up to  expect something for nothing, as if it were a birth right.
I want to  encourage you to send your young men and women (anyone over 20 can  hardly be called a child!) out into the world, maybe even consider  reducing or stopping the pocket money to encourage them to think,  explore and strive. Let them know that it is possible for them to  succeed without your "help". Take a moment to think back to your own time  as a young man/woman, what if someone had kept spoon feeding you, would  you be where you are today? No tree grows well under another tree,  children that are not exposed to challenges, don't cook well. That is  why you see adults complaining, "my parents didn't buy clothes for me  this christmas", ask him/her how old-30+. Because of the challenges we  faced in our youth, we are where and what we are today, this syndrome-my  children will not suffer what I suffered is destroying our tomorrow.  Deliberately reduce their allowance or mum-don't cook on  Saturday till late afternoon or evening-do as occasion deserve.
I learnt  the children of a former Nigerian head of state with all the stolen  (billions) monies in their custody, still go about with security escort  as wrecks. They are on drugs, several times because of the drug, they  collapse in public places. The escort will quickly pack them and off  they go, what a life. No one wants to marry them. Anyone who stops  learning is old, whether at twenty or eighty. Anyone who keeps learning  stays young. The greatest thing in life is to keep your mind young.-  Henry Ford.
Hard work does not kill, everything in Nigeria is going  down, including family settings. It is time to cook our children,  preparing them for tomorrow. We are approaching the season in Nigeria  where only the RUGGED, will survive. How will your ward fare? If the  present generation of Nigerian pilots retire, will you fly a plane flown by a young Nigerian pilot, If trained in Nigeria? People now  have first class who cannot spell GRADUATE or read an article without  bomb blast! Which Way Nigeria!, Which Way Nigerians!! Is this how we  will ALL sit and watch this country SINK?
Please forward to as many Nigerian  parents as you know.